*ALLOW ME TO INTRODUCE MYSELF* – Final edition 

So guys, here we have it, the final edition to this whole ‘allow me to introduce myself’ series. It’s been such an interesting journey, being able to share with you and have someone else present their views too! It’s true what they say, two is better than one. But unfortunately today marks the end  of this for now anyways! A shoutout to my anonymous blogger, who in fact was a male, thanks so much! But today I’m switching it up abit, and teaming up with my childhood friend for this final post.

But wait,

I would like to express my sincere gratitude and appreciation to everyone who views this blog, I’ve had over 1,000 viewers not even to talk of views which I’ve now hit the 3K mark! Woooooop woooooop. Who would have thought it eyyyy? Lil’ old me, small girl from a small town on the outskirts of London, who started this as a bit of fun! But on a serious note thank you all! Now for all you new peeps that are flicking through this for the first time, please, just please….
‘Allow me to introduce myself’ for the final time 😦 Today I had a lightbulb moment, well not today exactly but the other day. I was fortunate enough to attend the Big Clash a game show between universities and my uni just happened to be in it! And my God, guys it was  A M A Z I N G! Like I can’t even put it into words, absolutely amazing, better than any event I’ve been to. The energy, the vibe, the crowd, presenter, contestants! The atmosphere was electric and you couldn’t help but stand up and scream and get involved! And may I just add, we WON! Shout out team AU, this is for you guys. So, okay let me calm down a bit. It’s funny because they have a phrase they use in the game show “Positivity breeds happiness”! And it’s so true guys’ so today…

 

Allow me to introduce myself as positive vs negative! “.

 

Wow, so this was very last minute so I’m going to be very brief and to the point. As much as people love to promote positivity, negativity is inevitable. There will always be something that goes wrong, always a friend that turns their back on you and always people that will discourage you. HOWEVER, the key to live a positive life is dependent on how you handle the negative situations. 80% of what happens to you in life is as a result of the choices and decisions you make. You may have already noticed that life is not one straight path, things will block and fall in your path , despite the blockages you still need to keep moving forward. Life is unfair, deal with it. Bad things happen to good people , deal with it. Things don’t always go to plan , deal with it. The answer is to accept that there are blockages and let downs and find a way to overcome them. Life is full of lessons , what you may think is a let down could be God preparing you for something great. I can definitely say that some of the toughest situations brought about a stronger and wiser me. Sometimes we must go through things so we can know directly how to avoid similar situations in the future. If you don’t want to listen to good advice then you must feel the pain so you will understand. Many of us spend our time complaining about situations when we should be looking for solutions , staying stagnant when we should be making movements. From today learn to embrace change , for change is the only thing this world promises.

Now guys, this is me talking now, positivity is something hard to express at times, but it’s essential.Positivity makes way for happiness. Happiness is a feeling, a mental state of well being defined by positive or pleasant emotions which ranges from contentment to intense joy! But you see joy yeah, to me it’s a lifestyle! A state of complete, constant happiness caused by something exceptionally good or satisfying! Now ever wonder what you have to be joyous about? Well here’s one, cliche I know but the fact you’re alive and breathing. Yeah, its so easy to adopt a negative mindset, to have that default screw face, to always be the realist in every situation. But you see, being down hearted, sad, pessimistic or realistic as you ‘smart’ people like to call it isn’t actually good. Rather than being realistic, be an activist. Activate your mind into thinking positively, activate your emotions to only bring forth happiness and joy, activate your life into taking advantage of every opportunity you come across and making the best of every situation.

Now, I have  a lil’ something for y’all, you can thank me later. If at any point you’re feeling even a tad bit sad or down in the dumps, please check out my girls YouTube channel ‘MsNigeria’, and I can assure you, you will laugh and see the good in that bad situation!

 

Now remember,

‘Positivity breeds Happiness’.

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Yours Truly,

Praise’Gbemisola x

*ALLOW ME TO INTRODUCE MYSELF* – Valentines Edition

Yes another late post coming from me, my apologies guys, but here’s a sweet lil post for all you loved up fellows.

Now first, *Allow me to introduce myself *

But before I do, will you be my valentine?

Boom, on this ‘LOVE’ly day, I just wanted to share a quick opinion on the blackhole of a topic which is relationships. Now the first idea I wanted to address from a guys perspective, is an idiom you’ll all be familiar with (especially on a day like this) –
‘omg what did (HE) do for you?’ Or ‘omg what did (HE) get you?’ Why is it never what (SHE) did for you?
Now dont get me wrong, personally, I’ve always thought that men typically should be big contributers in a relationship (physically & mentally & all that……) – make her comfortable, support her, shower her with gifts & more to make her happy.
But at the same time it works both ways.
If I give you 100% of myself and you only give me 50% of yourself back then I’ve lost half of myself.
It means I’m 50% less complete than when I gave to you.
In a relationship you’re BOTH meant to complete each other – give back the same percentage your other half gives you and even more as well. If that system continues then you’ll both never be incomplete and neither will your relationship.
Also, if it’s ‘love’ you wont need to calculate, – the amount to give will just be second nature to you.

Yes, so you’ve all realised, the cat is finally out of the bag, its actually been a male that has been writing to you for the past 2 weeks. Weird right? But here’s my take on things.

For all you lovers out there, Happy Valentine’s Day to you and yours.

What a time to be alive and loved? Best feeling eh? I’m hoping between unwrapping your gifts, reading your cards, eating your chocolates, going to your lunches and dinners you can find just a lil’ bit of time to read this post today dedicated to those who have made the commitment to love and be loved. LOL, without going into tooo much detail into my own relationship status in a bid not to jinx anything, this V’day has probably been my best one yet, why? Well that’s for me to know and you not to find out just yet LOL.

Anyways, as you all know I have a habit of rambling and making each post incredibly L O N G. Well not today, I too want to spend time with my loved ones, even though I’m at university, and appreciate the gift of love. Now, this post has been inspired by my Pastor at church in Uni. Shout out to Pastor Dan!

So lets cut straight to it, the other voice on the blog spoke about always thinking about ‘What (HE) did for you or What (HE) gave you’, and I hate to say it females, we are quite guilty of this. Its so easy to get caught up in the material things, lust over the things a guy can give you or you can receive. That takes me to a sermon we had in church a few weeks ago, the idea of love vs lust. And still being in the spirit of Valentine’s Day. I want to just try to evaluate it.

Now love verses lust. The true meaning of love for me is hard to define, however I realise that when you love someone or something you need to do something. Love is a decision and actually not a feeling, love is constant, it doesn’t change. In essence it is actually a process of elimination to get to love, the survival of the fittest, but the most important thing is love GIVES. Like I said before, us females, girls, women, we often lust after things we can be given, the things he can reward you with, the things he can shower you with but the sad truth is when the lust runs out, what are you left with? You see, lust is unintentional, there’s no effort required, its involuntary, it just happens, lust is now but sadly lust never gives, it TAKES. Pretty deep I know, but sometimes we need to look at ourselves, especially on days like this and realise that the beauty is not in receiving, its in giving. Love is a deliberate, intentional pursuit done consciencely and intentionally characterized by deliberation. Now ladies and even men, we are worth far more than unintentional gifts, effortless pursuits, we are GEMS!

Now make the decision to start with yourself, love starts from ourselves. We can then be open to love and be loved. And for all you singletons out there, use this day as an opportunity to express your appreciation and show your love to your family and friends. And don’t worry, by next year I’m sure you’ll all be wifey’d up and chilling with bae and what not!

 

Once again, Happy Valentines Day Y’all!

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Yours Truly,

 

 

Praise’Gbemisola x

*allow me to introduce myself*

Yes, I’m aware that the time is 21:00 GMT lol, but I was loving my Sunday nap, a tad too much and totally forgot to post this earlier. As promised, myself and someone else are teaming up this month to share some thoughts on a topic. This week, there wasn’t a topic per say, but let me give you this insight, the whole concept of YOLO, ‘You Only Live Once’! Well, I took this saying into account this weekend and jumped on a coach to Leicester for a uni party/rave known as Barfest. Now, don’t get me wrong it was all fun, exciting etc. But also a massive L! My apologies to my older audience for my lingo, lol, a massive ‘L’ meaning a loss, for me it was a cash loss. See, the whole YOLO lifestyle comes with its positives and negatives, and for me that was mine. And well my mystery blogger this month has a somewhat contrary argument and great analogy.. But first.

Allow them to introduce themselves 🙂 (be nice guys, it’s a lil scary writing to all you peeps) . P.S. It’s gunna be a long one….

‘So boom.
As I’m about to write this, I’m taking a small amount of amusement in the fact that you have no clue of my identity at all. All I am to you guys at this very moment is just an anonymous perspective, a masked opinion, or if you like – a random point of view. In other words I want you guys not to think of me as person typing behind a screen right now, but just as a voice, and in order to make this easier I’ll just name myself after the title of each topic.
So without further ado – *allow me to reintroduce myself my name is ‘THE BLUE PILL OR THE RED PILL?’* 

Alright! So you’ve probably heard that line about the blue pill, red pill stuff before in what happens to be one of my favourite films ‘The Matrix’ (If you haven’t seen it before sorry for you, but try to when you have time, but if you know, then you know). I just want to turn that phrase into a small metaphore before I build up my point, so please bear with me.

Anyway, the idea here is that there are 2 available pills. The blue pill is very exciting because it’s quick to digest and could… allow you to achieve self satisfaction and some happiness from your actions in the short run, (so basically choosing blue means doing what you want to do, because you desire to, without thinking of the outcome). But there’s 1 possible side effect from the blue pill which is……. regret. 

The red pill is a bit less exciting and takes a bit longer to digest, which is a downer, BUT ‘WILL!’ allow you to achieve self satisfaction & confidence in your decisions you make in the long run, (so basically being confident that you chose the best option because you thought about it, regardless of what you desired).. And it has no side effect as painful as regret.

Yes you guessed it, my point is about choices. Our WHOLE ENTIRE LIFE is based on choices – from whether to turn left or right, to which university to apply for, or what food to eat etc. – all the way to the career path we choose or who to marry. We must also understand that every single little choice we make WILL! Have an outcome no matter how small it is, and whether that outcome is good or bad is up to us.
So if ‘choices’ affect our WHOLE ENTIRE LIFE… Why are we not more serious about them? Surely we should spend a bit more time trying to make the correct ones right? 

If we choose the blue pill and digest decisions quickly based on how we feel or our desires, although we may be happy in the short run there’s a higher risk involved that the decision you make is more wrong than it is right, which will lead to regret or may even affect others around us negatively L. In the future we don’t want to regret a bad choice we made years ago just because it made us ‘happy’ in the moment. However, if you take the red pill then you shouldn’t experience the side effect of regret (that is.. if you took it properly), because it should mean that you’re taking a bit longer to digest your decisions properly before acting, and your actions aren’t based solely on how you feel, what you want or what will give you happiness in the short run, but instead what would benefit your life most and others around you most. 

Another twist we have to consider after making the decision to think before we act, is that making the correct choice is always the hardest and may not make you as happy as the blue pill in the short run but we have to remember that happiness is temporary. It runs out when you stop feeding it your wants and desires. But the reward you gain from making the correct choice is greater. How Ironic, because I’m probably the last person to be writing about correct choices but at the same time I’m a working progress too. I came up with a small abbreviation to drum into my head to better my decision making on a daily, which you guys can use as well. 

E.B.A – ‘evaluate before action’. It’s quick and easy to use, but we have to be consistent for it to work… so before you act, just think ‘EBA’.

We can sit back and say at the end of the day “oh it’s just life, we make bad choices sometimes but we learn from it”. Yes… that statement is definitely spot on in a sense, especially in most of our lives, but at the same time we can reduce the significance of that statement in our lives by replacing the word ‘sometimes’ in that sentence, with the word ‘rarely’ – only if we evaluate our decisions before action. 

So my last note is for the aff’s out there -I’m guessing if you’re more of a pounded yam person, today is the day you chose E.B.A. ‘

Yours Truly,

Praise’ Gbemisola x